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Lets sort it out. There are a lot of scammers on the net. What is the solution? Actually you may relax and start search somewhere nearer to your house. No need to worry or doubt or being anxious. Is this the decision you take?
Ok, then this article is not exactly of your highest interest.
Whether you finally decide to become online dating agency member and start search somewhere on the other side of the world. Lucky you are! Courage and patience be your guides…
You positively do not need any instructions and the heart will bring you to the door of your sweetheart that has been waiting for the whole life…"Picturesque view from out the window of your built-together home, kids, outrageous devotion and love, love, love together…
This could be true if you are sleeping. Now get up and face the reality. Dating online is just the same lottery as we have here in real life. Don't be confused with the number of shining faces popping out of the screen while browsing profiles. This definitely means NOTHING. There is still no guarantee that you'll be lucky enough to find your exact match. Judging the amount of people applying to dating services and club, I can swear that they believe that their chances rise up to the sky.
Getting down to earth I'm not that optimistic though I have to admit the chances slightly rise. Ok, whatever we should do if we can't do anything about that, lets go on and date online!
Who we are, men involved into that desperate dating procedure? Mostly we are romantics and this gives us either chance to be distinctive from the rest men's world. (Romantic men are mostly dinosaurs in real life) Or opens vulnerable sides that are easy to approach. We can remain innocent being scammed several times, take time to recover and step again fighting the fate.
Romantic origin and (should we have hidden that) the lust towards the long-legged, blue eyed, sincere, family oriented creatures gives a unique scamming opportunities. No need to investigate the essences and consequences.
Aiming to focus positive results of dating search, I'm sharing the following:
- Don't expect anything from your partner and don't try to frame her into a certain dream standards. Believe me that the real person you are going to meet at the destination airport is much more interesting than ever of your dreams.
- Be enthusiastic and extraordinary
- Don't mix up true interest of a potential partner with the so-called "material benefits" - flowers, sweets, gifts. Inspire her with your personality, views, ideas. Don't try to impress her and look better making her blind with the gifts. This could cause a great disappointment and lost of hope, nothing to say about expenses. Surely,
flowers are good for special events and occasions nothing to say that meanness is the worst men's quality after the cowardice and stupidity.
- Doubt her, starting point is that you don't know her and her expectations. She may force herself but life brings everything to initial places. Unless you want to discover true disappointment in her eyes when she meet you personally.
- Be careful with her feeling though don't forget yours. Suspect her, but do that secretly - don't show that you are jealous or suspicious. Give her time to show up. You'll see what she wants and expects.
- Be demanding - this is ok if you're focused positively.
- Don't judge hastily - remember you've never seen her and you are separated by kilometers. Maybe she is tired, maybe she's upset and doesn't want to share that. Women are special creatures that we never understand. So, give her time - show how patient you can be at times!
- Don't make pressure, or force her or ask where she's been for the whole weekend when you tried to reach her
- just leave this as it is unless it happens regularly. So, she appreciates your self-confidence.
- Make investments into future relationships - evening/morning SMS are fine, shot calls for letting know that you think of her - great!
- Forget that you don't want to talk much - reveal your colloquial talents. This is solely the pure source you can implement while dating online. Tell about your feelings, maybe plants for today's evening, etc - just realize that she can't feel that just looking into your eyes.
- If this is suspicious online, believe me - this is worth being suspicious. Don't be blind. This will lead you to the deep disappointment. Leave the idea of justifying her deeds, words etc - leave that as it is and time will show. Don't be active in revealing the truth otherwise you'll be absorbed with destructive emotions. Just leave it to her actions.
- Use any net means to find out everything about the potential sweetheart. There are plenty of sources that provide qualified information about scammers etc. At last order address validation with flowers delivery. They will check whether she lives there or not. (But be informed that sometimes they tell that the delivery is done while it's not. And there is no means to find out the truth. Both sides can lie, the delivery company that the address is valid and the lady can keep silent that she didn't get any flowers just to hide her inner intentions to scam you. So, trust reliable companies who value their reputation and would better refund the money after the address validation instead of misinform you.)
To summarize everything said above, keep your eyes open, don't mix up real interest with the intention of gain benefits from you, be suspicious all the time until you bring her on fiancee visa, be enthusiastic and interesting.
So you'll enjoy your time online and remember this time when you are together with the "view from out of the window, kids, devotion and love, love, love together…
Russian character as any other has been modified and formed by many historical and geographical peculiarities.
Actually, history may tell and explain much. Unfortunately not many of us know it. Centuries of constant wars, internal struggles have forced the character of the Russians and put the essence of their strange patriotism. Severe weather conditions were the reasons for working and living together to protect from natural disasters.
Fairy tails can tell much about each nation. If you look through the tails of the Russians you'll see that the main hero is Ivan-durak - an unremarkable person doing silly things with no sense (at a first glance) His main power is in the lack of practice and pragmatism. This is a certain national hero who is sincere and very simple. He is pitiful, wordless.
One of the most remarkable qualities of the Russians is their being very sociable. For centuries the Russians peasants lived in a community that functioned as a support for the poor and didn’t let the strongest get higher position than their neighbors. So, as you may see this system worked long before the Socialism was revolutionary established in Russia. Under these conditions the mutual support principle dominated the natural survival instinct.
Many foreigners admired these «collectivism» between the Russians. The American senator at the beginning of the 20th century wrote: "Individualism is ineradicable quality of Anglo-Saxon character. The Russians has a race tendency to work together. The Russians are working perfectly together when the Americans, English or even Germans fail to find common grounds because of constant quarrels and blaming each other”
The feeling of collectivism let the Russians interfere into other people’s privacy. Foreigners living in Russia can't help being surprised by the same situation. When they get out for a walk with a kid without a cap on in a cold weather they will be blamed by everyone in the street for the irresponsible attitude towards their kid's health. To give some advice in the street is a regular thing for Moscow.
The remarkable quality of any Russian person is his patriotic feelings. It maybe a hidden, quiet, shy form of patriotism. The Russians are very critical and demanding to themselves. But you should not forget that it's just the other side of honesty and self- esteem. You should not take words like: "No one can live in this country" for simple. The Russians are often blaming life (there are a lot of reasons for that) but they won't bear same critics from any foreigner.
There is a very complicated attitude towards laws and rules in Russia. Some time ago I was walking in a park in a very crowded district of Moscow. I noticed many tables that prohibited walking with pets in the park. But under those signs there were not even tens but thousands of dogs walking. And this was natural because there is no other place there (in the district) to walk. So, those tables were senseless and even impracticable.
If you are aware of this attitude of Russians towards laws and rules, you won't be surprised with the students smoking near the table "No smoking" This is a very important thing to know. For example, note that it's not customary here to let passersby go on zebra crossing. So, be careful!
People are very informal to each other here in Russia and many people treasure friendship. Be prepared to get a detailed report on your question "how are you?" A formality of foreigners sometimes offends the Russians. Many foreigners can't help being surprised with the sincerity of the Russians when they talk about private life. So, don't get surprised when unknown people in a train will tell you their whole life story. An American traveler in the 19th century wrote: " the Russians on a trip are very talkative. They are as curious as the Scottish - they are so sincere sharing their private and intimate things and that’s even confusing"
In spite of many years of official atheism, religion plays a very important role in lives of many Russians. The dominative is Orthodox Christianity. People are standing in the church, sometimes for many hours. When entering the church, men should take off their hats, women on the contrary should put on a scarf. It's not customary here to go to the church in bridges, shorts or open dress. Some churches do not let women dressed in pants enter the church. But of course now the official church has become more loyal. If you want to ask the Saint about anything, you should buy a candle and put it to the icon. Of course you can't speak loudly in a church, make photos, video and stare at other people.
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The extremely complicated attitude towards money and wealth remains in
Russia nowadays. The Russian culture and literature has always
manifested that "money is not that makes you happy" The general idea
that one can't buy happiness is deeply rooted in the Russian
This complicated attitude towards money is still preserved in Russia.
The wealth is a reason for hostility and jealousy but doesn't bring
respect and social position. This brings much pain to so-called
New-Russians who aim achieving respect from their associates. Though
the rumors about the Russian bribery are wide-spread I'd recommend
consult the Russian person before giving the bribe.
Though most of problems are resolved with bribery if your "present" is
not in right place and time the person could become furious and
insulted. You'll be surprised with the fact that for most people in
Russian the principle "we are poor but proud" - well-known in Russia -
is much more important than the money itself.
Dating abroad is as difficult as real-life dating. I do not see any
Difference. Both options have it's problems and positive sides.
You definitely get some more chances to meet the partner while
dating online though in real life you are bounded geographically,
sometimes socially or even limited by inner reasons like lack of time,
shyness, no wish to make efforts.
Life-dating has it's extremely important positive features. Like you don't expect you just take what is
suggested. You don't have to imagine or create a certain image of
the person you are dating. You see him/her with your own eyes and this
is just your choice whether to notice everything or see your partner
through the pink glasses.
The online dating on the contrary bring mostly
unpleasant surprises. Especially if we deal with the settled opinion that dating online is a magic that can
make happy practically anyone if he/she has a zeal.
Truly the most difficult points are
- to let the person be who he truly is without your violated perception.
Don't you remember your first meeting with your date and the usual
first disappointment into each others eyes. Yes, yes and once again
yes, even if after that you are able to find common grounds and like
each other and then even fall in love. The first meeting is a
challenge and not many of us can stand this. So, lets praise those who
have enough wit to behave the right way and let the partner show who
she/he really is without fake expectations
- forget about what you already know about each other. This is hard, I
swear. Like you date online and you are sure that you know the person
but really you don't. You know nothing about the person you've been
dating online for some long time and this is a starting point. Those
who can leave behind the online experience and start exploring the
person again are the winners and the luckiest from us.
Good luck and all my respect for everyone who join the online dating society
The more discrepancy could be noticed inside the social structure of
the Russian society. On the one hand one can see the strict hierarchy
inside the social structure, respect towards the older people, social
motivated position. On the other hand nothing is so easy as it seems
at first sight. So, for example, the relationships between the
boss and the employee are supposed to leave the whole responsibility
for important decisions to the boss but still doesn't exclude the
communication on equal terms.
As a whole the business relationships between the superior and the
employee tend to maintain informal and more hearty nature in
comparison to other Western countries.
Besides there is the proud of the "small person" that has been
strongly manifested by the Russian literature. The smallest unit can
stop the complicated machine that was approved by many big bosses only
because of the disrespect and no attention to the "small unit - small
person" even if you have all money of the world. In this case the
personal request instead of the demand can do magic. Most times people
admire respect and attention instead of money and career. No wonder
that a person speak of the boss if he likes him that he is "so good,
respectful". It's customary to bring small gifts, souvenirs for the
receptionist at the hotel, secretary assistant in the office, nurse in
the hospital etc - but do not regard this as a bribe or your boon.
There is a saying in Russia "I don't value your present I treasure
your love" This is not when the financial side matters but the
attention and human relationships. Present small gifts with the
feeling like smb makes great favor accepting them. This way the
success is guaranteed. The gratitude of the small person can be big
and very important to you.
Let me put it straight for you not to be absorbed by the number
of useless words :-) There has been many articles and
recommendations for choosing the right shop. This text covers
the points that nobody's emphasized.
1 One reason shops.
Believe me, in the growing flowers market, a florist should be
at least inventive to meet the customer requirements. What do
we face here on the area of x-USSR? We state that we reach
difficult areas and that's true. We’ve been reaching them for
at least 5 years + Don't you think that this'd become a regular
thing here. You’ll be completely right if you think this way. We
can reach difficult and urban areas of Russia, FSU - this is the
peculiarities of the market but we can do much more. With the
relatively stable economic situation and the so-called growth
we can and do suggest more service and better quality. Actually
we keep struggling for the variety and beauty :-)
So, if a shop states the only thing "we deliver to ALL places
in Russia, FSU" as the only or main reason for ordering - think
"they are outdated"
2 One choice shops.
Following the previous abstract I can recommend to "be
inventive" Ask more and be choosy. The Russian floral school is
developing day by day. Professionals are ready to suggest
arrangements that are not just simple roses in the artificial
packing but more exclusive floral works. There is a solution
for choosy customers even for difficult destinations.
So, if you see limited arrangements suggestion with few mixed
bouquets - think "they'll finally deliver a bouquet that will
look differently, contains different flowers (so-called mixed
bouquet of seasoned flowers - what is this?) and of any colour
that is left in stock of the local florist) – they are
inconcrete because they work on terms suggested by others.
3 One bouquet shops.
Most of florists never make any site updates suggesting new
arrangements for the delivery. So, you have little chances to
send something new if you are a regular customer.
Time to think "if I finally order with them and they give me a
discount (as most of florists really set discounts) what would
I do with the discount if I don't have anything new to order?”
– they are stagnant
4 One alternative
Don't be scared to order different than roses arrangement.
Believe me a nice flowers mix with lilies or gerberas, other
flowers with natural arrangement, floral accessories etc will
be much desired as for the creativity that could easily compete
with the beautiful freshness of non-arranged roses. Also, think
that most shops suggest "dozen red roses" of the medium length
that is usually not stated in the description. The red colour
that also can be called "puple, vinous etc" So, always keep in
mind that there is always an alternative to roses ordering that
requires contacting the management, checking "the length, the
colour and the roses supplier - for example Dutch or Ecuador"
There is no wonder that most shops deliver Ecuador roses at
price of Dutch.
5 Same day delivery propaganda.
Let me explain this, only few USA and international networks
deal directly with local florists in the destination cities. To
be honest only few large shops develop their networks
establishing direct contract partnerships on places. So, just
think that there are at least 2 but usually 3-4 mediators
between you and the addressee. This surely should cause delays
and sometimes confusion. That's why most pf shops can't say
clearly whether the order has been delivered as the information
could be lost while transferring from mediator to mediator. This
could be excused for the reputable flower shops that keep
fighting for the price reduce and developing the direct
partnership network. But most shops are simply lazy to do that,
they keep on advertising "catching" unaware customers and state
that they are local florists network while they are not. I keep
finding our flower arrangements at different sites at prices
twice more than we suggest.
If you want names, contact me directly. So, they keep stealing
pictures of flowers from the site and suggest same goods at
higher prices. So, ordering at most of site think that "I deal
with mediators and I'm ready to pay double price for the
pleasure to shop here"
6 Scammers, scammer, fraud, guarantees?
And this well-known story with scammers and address
We've suggested this service solely because we had nothing to
do about that. Our customers sometimes get trapped with the
scammers that are numerous online. As most of them are
honorable men they trust ladies and try to brighten their days
with flowers. The scammers provide fake
addresses and we just have to deal with this fact. Now think
that one-day shops say that the delivery is carried out at the
address provide by scammers and a customer has no means to
check the information. As there is double lie, first the
scammer, then the shop.
You can ask what to do? Actually nothing, this is the case of
reputation of the shop. We've had some problems in past with
some customers who were sure that the address was valid. They
tried to reassure us that they'd ordered at the address before
and the delivery was a success. So, the only means for proving
the previous “successful delivery” fraud is our reputation and
the number of constant customers. Just imagine that
commercially there is no benefit for the shop to refund money
for the order placed at the fake address, this is a headache
most of times. Moreover the address verification takes the
administrators away from the debug process. So, first we spend
time, money, efforts, take the responsibility for informing a
customer of the fake data and this is solely for maintaining
the reputation. Of course it's much easier to "complete" the
order at the fake address and forget about it. At least check
whether the site lists the scammers addresses for the
A funny fact: Some customers decide to send flowers only
because they need address verification. But this is ok, as soon
as we can be of any help. Trust is a valuable thing.
So, while ordering at unknown place think: “I do not require
any guarantees cause it’s useless, I realize the possibility to
7 Targeting and healthy environment!
In the conclusion. It's difficult to reveal the trustworthiness
and the quality of services at a glance. Though don't ignore the
impression that a shop is transferring though the Internet: how
it welcomes you, how they accompany you on the whole way of
ordering. This is important as you should feel the main and
foremost idea. As you might guess this idea is not just making
money but make people separated by small and large distances
satisfied or even happy. This could always be noticed. If the
shop is ambitious, "healthy", meaning good for themselves and
people they work for, oriented on general idea of customer
satisfaction then…This is your guarantee that people collected
under the particular brand will treat your order as personal
thing. This promises the delivery of flowers along with your
feelings, emotions or intentions invested.
I was asked by the customer "hi, your site has a lot of info on russian women, but what about russian men? how are they with women? i'm a foreign woman who's with a russian man, and the info on these dating sites about them being into drinking,
etc., scares me. can you give me some insight into how
russian men are with foreign or any women, and how
they treat them?"
I found it interesting to pay attention to and I
found it fair as there is little information on that topic.
I have been thinking for a week trying to figure out what to start with and how can I reveal the subject without damaging the reputation of all Russian men (as this is not completely fair that a woman speaks on that topic) like we are talking underhand. Being biased anyway and scared to be driven way by the common opinion, I asked my husband to tell me "who is
Russian men" :-) heh, I knew that I would get zero answer. So, finding myself in the same starting place, I referred to the mother-history.
Believe me, being an all-women-are-always-right point defender, I'm not really attavhed to the idea to be unbiased, just want to draw a many-sided picture of the human being - Russian man.
Lets remember what is usually said…
1 "they all drink, smoke, they are ignorant, tough, careless,
selfish, childish, inaccurate..." Much more to be added, believe me.
Yes, yes, yes, there are a lot of men who drink much in Russia. Some of them drink because they are alcoholics, some because they lost themselves and as a consequence lost their self-confidence, some drink much in comparison to a typical European man just because they were not taught how to drink and enjoy drinks (that may not effect their social status or whatever) This is just because of the lack of the "enjoy-small drinking" culture. Many find relaxation in drinking...what can we do? - suggest some alternative ways of relaxation...but we are not talking about "how to rebuild" :-) right? this is "how it is"
Ok, lets agree that "our man" doesn't drink that much, doesn't find drinking as the only relaxation in life and he is self-confident and we shall move further...Heh, yes I forgot to mention that even if he doesn't drink much and don't drink on regular basis, be prepared that if he meets his school/work/neighbor/etc who is dear to him, they will get
drunk anyway, talking of past days, common friends and simply because they lived in the same building, or went to the same school or simply because they are Russian and you just don't understand what they truly feel ...
2 "they think only about work and money"...right, yes, but what do you think they should think of here in Russia? :-) Look… first they were busy with the revolution in 1917, then they were busy with the civil war, then with the II world war, then with the restoring the country from the ruins after the world war, then they were learning to do nothing as was
set by the government (building socialism when everybody should be equal to each other, when all engineers whatever their honours are got same wages, when everything is predicted and set for many years - the stability of the poor existence can do a cabbage out of even a talented person nothing to tell about an average one. when the main goal in life is to get a car at the age of 40 :-) well, what can be added), then perestroika comes and Gorbachev says - common guys lets do "something" (but he forgot to say what exactly should be done)
So, the men did their best to do whatever they thought was best :-) after the years of stagnation, they were overflowed with the ideas of what to do (so, again being busy with the idea "to get everything they want preferably in the shortest time - here we come to the constant fight with one another for this idea, killing each other and forcing one another to hand over their share.) So, you see there was neither time nor opportunity for men to think about vital things like (families, women, other immortal values) Getting back to our days, here's when they finally stop for a little and think that there is no need to fight the war or build a country, or work
for the all people's social benefit (see socialism above), or try to survive in the new coming jungles of wild capitalism, there's come a chance to live for themselves and maybe for the small part of the social circle that is called "own family" Yes, many has come to the idea to build a family but also many hasn't as they didn't want to keep a family at a low or average income. So, women again should give them time to feed their
self-confidence and let them earn money. Believe me,
Im not quite sure that after earning some more money they will be more family oriented, this is just a presumption that it maybe so one day
Lets think that "our man" is like this, that he just needs some
more time to get some more money to feel financially secure.
He is not an indifferent to all human values guy and at the bottom of his mind he realizes that the family is important and…. shall we move further...
3 "They are bad-manned, ignorant, inaccurate" :-) Lets say that most of times it differs from person to person as everywhere. But yes, Russian men are not that socially adapted as most Europeans. But this could be cured out if they are able to learn and listen to what you try to tell them. More over being childish all their lives, they get used to listen to what you tell them (like put this thing here, hang this thing there) So, that they are easy to rule (mean in-house :-) and most of times they just switch off their brains waiting for the command "dear you forgot to wash the plate" - Oh, yes darling, will do
that in a minute" No command - no action :-) So, lets say that "our man" is not ignorant, he loves us, and listen to what you say and you can deal with his being badly adapted to social
life. Lets think that you agree when he says that a real man should smell like a bear, should shave once a week and his deeds are as strong and cool as his appearance while he still uses perfume, wears clean and nice clothes, polished shoes, eat with a folk and a knife, speaks clear language etc. Let him think that you understand his need to remain a sever Russian "muzhik" while you want him to turn into a European-looking nice guy :-) Let him know that you realize the favor
4 "they are childish, lazy and helpless" in things that are less important than the "global cataclysms" and the "world politics news" :-) This is true :-) maybe when an American woman hears "I need to get home to feed my husband" she would think that a husband is at least a disabled person. :-) Nothing at all, this maybe heard in many Russian families, when a woman runs home from work just because her husband won't take out of the fridge an already prepared dish, put in into the oven to warm up and eat. No, most of time, a woman does it and serves the table even when she works same hours as a men :-) And if she is busy a man may die from hunger but won't move a finger to prepare food for himself. If there is a kid with him at home then they may eat sweets together all day just because they didn't find anything to eat as they didn't open the fridge :-) he, he This is what we (women)'ve done with the Russian men taking care of them from the very birth. When he is a boy his mom does herself to create most comfortable conditions for him. So, the lovely kid won't be bothers with such meaningless things like cooking, laundry, cleaning etc while he is busy with the greater life achievements. Believe me, Im not talking about bringing up a genius, not at all, geniuses here in Russia are as rare things as everywhere else. This is just a normal
family with a loving mom. So, at the age of smth, this kid get
married and is usually lent into his fiancee's hands who will take care of him till the end of life (or divorce) whatever his great achievements are or are not …btw, there is an anecdote in Russia …"a wife asks her husband why is he laying on the sofa all days long doing nothing…he replies "what if a war tomorrow and I am tired" …. So, lets agree that "our man" is not that childish (by the way, most men say that they "feel like boys" with pride - this really scares me, what is that good in being a boy in their 40ies? ;-) being an easy-going person, young at heart etc - is great and I understand this, but the idea of communicating with a man in his 40ies feeling like a boy - really scares me) - sorry, was driven away from the main topic - so, "our man" is not childish, a bit lazy (as they all are), and of course not helpless and shall we move further...
5 "they are down to earth, not romantic, most of times indifferent" - yes, like the rest of the men's world :-) so what? if you are romantic he is able to share what is the romance to you.
So, lets agree that "our man" is down to earth but enjoys romantics as the rest of normal population... :-) and of course he is not a dry old stick and your tears makes him suffer (if you cry about once a month - don't do that too often as he will get used)
6 "they are irresponsible" - not more than the rest of the men in the world :-)
7 "they are rude" - yes, (see above about the bad social update and adaptation :-) but they are learning how to get rid of the years of the rude social behavior when people were ready to kill each other in the queue for the goods at every shop.
Lets agree that "our man" is rude only in-between their boys company and curses in your presence only if he strikes his finger with the hammer or smth...
8 "they don't like kids" - nonsense - they love their kids if they are not degraded or malicious. They are severe, and somewhat careless fathers - yes, but kids love them and they love kids in return. :-)
9 "they are hard hearted" - right, when they see a dog with the broken leg they would hardly take it home. But if this dog is theirs - things change. So, the question is whether this thing or a person or whatever belongs to them (as the possessive feeling is very strong) if the response is - yes - then they will move the rocks to get this thing back, or save it etc.
So, lets say that "our man" is hard-hearted though his hard-heartedness could be easily diluted by your softness. Just ask him " dear, lets take this poor lonely dog home" please, please, please...and this dog will live with you and he (himself) will drive it to the doctor to cure its leg :-)
10 "they hate mothers-in-law" - yes, so what? are there many wives who love their mothers-in-law? :-) lets skip it :-)
11 they are deceitful - not more than the rest of the men's world
Heh, too long opus ….Just to take a brief summary"….
"Our man" doesn't drink much, is self-confident, busy with earning money for him to build a family (or to support the family) and feel self-confident, appreciating human family values, a true Russian strong sever "muzhik" able to draft the rivers, to live in Siberia without the food and the clothes, able to mend the car without a tool kit and depot units and much more while you force him to look nicely, accurately, polish shoes, do a regular hair cut etc, a bit childish, a bit lazy, a bit helpless as concerning to "where I have put my sweater last night" etc, down to earth most of times, a bit rude staying on his own with the repairs, loving you and loving kids, hard-hearted most of time but ready to melt under your requests, with the strong possessive feeling, (forgot to say - with good sense of humour), sexy (I didn't write about that - because they all are the same - sex rules the men's world)
This is what has stood out from the all brain storming :
What I have to add is that I - in no way - would have preferred to be described by a Russian man in the topic "who are Russian woman" :-)
I'd prefer to be distinctive. So, there is a huge chance that your man is distinctive or want to be distinctive perfecting himself, developing himself and will be represented as not a typical Russian man but yours only.
BTW if you have an idea of how you can describe the US men, send me your thoughts, I'd be pleased to publish them at my sites.